soften

/ˈsȯ-fən/

verb

  1. to make soft or softer

  2. to weaken the military resistance or the morale of especially by harassment (such as preliminary bombardment) —often used with up

  3. to impair the strength or resistance of —often used with up

phrasal verb

  1. to treat (someone) very well or kindly in order to make that person more likely to help one, give one something, etc.

  2. to weaken (an enemy) through military attacks

He tried to soften her up by buying her flowers.

idiom

  1. to make one's disappointment less painful

She was disappointed not to get the job, but the promise of another job cushioned/softened the blow.